Useful also for parents wishing to bring up children to be inclusive and knowledgeable. Preparing to adopt has a requirement to increase your knowledge and preparation. it can be very overwhelming to know where to start. I have therefore picked 8 key books I think will be a great start, in your learning.
- How to be an Anti-racist by Ibram X. Kendi
New York Times Bestseller. A 2019 non-fiction book, providing a ground-breaking approach to understanding racism and inequality in our society. The book provides proposals for anti-racist individual actions and systemic changes.
- White Fragility: and why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism. By Robin DiAngelo and Michael Eric Dyson
Explores the counterproductive reactions white people have when their assumptions about race are challenged. As a white woman herself, DiAngelo documents the ways in which white American’s are unable to withstand even small amounts of stress triggered by discussions of race.
- Me and White Supremacy: combat racism, change the world and become a good ancestor. By Layla Saad, Robin Diangelo
This eye-opening book challenges you to do the essential work, discovering and challenging your biases, to help white people take action and dismantle privilege so that you can stop the damage you are inflicting on people of colour.
- Inside transracial adoption: Strength-based, culture-sensitising parenting strategies for inter-Country or domestic adoptive families that don’t ‘match’. 2nd edition, Beth Hall and Gail Steinberg.
Both authors have adopted transracially. Inside Transitional Adoption, is an authoritative guide to navigating the challenges and issues white parents face when they adopt a child of a different race. They are co-founders of PACT: An adoption alliance, an organisation for those adopting transracially, in the UK.
- In their Voices: Black Americans on Transracial Adoption, by Rhonda M. Roorda.
Interviews with 16 adult transracially adopted adults, and their family members on being adopted. The adoptees come from many different backgrounds and are of a range of ages and backgrounds. Roorda’s expressed goal is “to prepare white adoptive parents to raise culturally aware, self-confident, and centred children of colour”.
- In their own voices: transracial adoptees tell their stories, by Rita James Simon.
This collection of interviews conducted with black ad bi-racial young adults who were adopted by white parents, the authors present a range of personal stories of adoptees. They examine how the experience affected their racial and social identities and their lifestyles. The book also includes an overview of both the history and current legal status of transracial adoption.
- Come rain or come shine: A white parents Guide to adopting and parenting black children. by Rachel Garlinghouse.
Transracial adoption can be daunting, challenging and demanding of the white parent. This is a conversational and practical guide which should increase your understanding and confidence. This guide will enhance your understanding and appreciation of transracial adoption.
- Does anyboby else look like me? A parent’s guide to raising multi-racial children by Donna Jackson Nakazawa.
Helping a child to understand their mixed racial background. Drawing on her own experience, interviews, research Nakazawa offers sound advice for multi-cultural and multi-cultural families raising bi-racial children. From books and toys to use in play with young children, to simple scripts to help them gracefully react to insensitive/racist comments at school.
Subjects you need to find more about on video and in the media:
- “The talk” Talking to black children both boys and girls about the police and how to react and keep themselves safe if stopped by the police.
- Hair care
- Skin care
- Building resilience
- Building confidence
- The details of their birth family’s cultural background
- Positive images of black children and adults.
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