Attendance is crucial but maintaining good attendance can be challenging for a child who has been adopted and may have experienced challenges at school.
To support good school attendance:
- Talk with your child about the importance of attending school regularly.
- Avoid booking family trips or doctor appointments during school hours.
- Make sure your child eats healthy foods and it’s especially important to get enough sleep and exercise.
- Don’t accept any of the child’s excuses for missing school
- Discuss with them what happened at school each day.
- Support school rules and consequences for skipping class and being late.
- Provide incentives for improving or maintaining school attendance and promptness.
These “Basics” Make Learning Possible . . . And They’re learnt at Home
We hear a lot of talk about teaching children basic skills but before children can learn reading, writing, and arithmetic, they need other basic skills. Here are some important basics you will need to instil in your child and you can teach these skills at home.
- How to pay attention. Children have an ability to tune out anything they don’t want to hear. Before you talk to your child, speak her name. Make sure she is looking at you when you speak to her.
- How to wait for something. Teach your child that some things are worth waiting for and set a goal for something your child would like. Make a chart to keep track of progress as you try to achieve the goal.
- Planning a job and carrying it through. Teach your children to finish what they start.
- Knowledge of time. Teachers need to set deadlines and students need to learn to keep them. At home, give your child a set amount of time to finish a job.
Parents Can Help if Their Child is having a Problem in School
If your child is having problems in school, there are ways you can help. Here are some ideas:
- Talk with your child’s teacher. Learn about the studying your child is expected to do. Ask how you can help at home.
- Give study tips. Teach your child how to make an outline or explain that cramming for a test isn’t as effective as studying over several nights.
- Expect success, and full effort regardless of abilities.
- Relate homework to real life. Mention how writing skills have helped you at work. Show your child that studying helps people in and out of school.
- Review with your child. Ask your child practice questions, call out spelling words.
- Use specific praise. Children need to hear exactly what they’re doing right.
- Ask to see homework feedback. Talk about the teacher’s marks and notes. Compliment your child on her progress.
- Show interest in school. Ask frequently about what your child is studying. Send the message that schoolwork is important and interesting.
Have a Successful meeting with Teachers
Meeting with teachers is one of the most important ways you can learn about your child. In these conversations, you can see how well you child is doing. You can meet the teacher face to face so that he/she can understand your child better. You can also ask for suggestions that will make it easier for you and the school to work together throughout the year. Here are four tips that can help you have a more successful meeting.
- Plan for it. Before you come to school, write out some questions that you would like to ask. Here are some suggestions:
- Does my child get along with others?
- What is my child’s behaviour in class?
- Does my child read at the level you would expect for this age?
- Is my child able to do the maths that you would expect for a student at this age?
- What are my child’s strengths and areas of development? (You will want to share your ideas about this as well).
- Ask to see your child’s work. There is no better way to see how your child is progressing than to look at her school work. You can judge for yourself whether your child is making progress.
- Ask for suggestions. If your child is doing well, ask what you can do to keep things on a positive track. If there are problems, ask what you can do to help. If a teacher identifies problems, ask for ways you can work together to solve the problem. If ideas are not shared immediately, ask for a follow-up conference.
Make Homework More Fun
one of the most important ways to help your child use time wisely is setting a regular homework time. Having a regular homework time lets your child know that schoolwork is a priority in your family. It also avoids those “I’ll study after this TV show” arguments. Below are some tips to make homework time more productive.
- Enforce your rule about a regular time for homework. You may want to tell your child, “No TV until your homework is completed.”
- Have a regular place for your child to do homework. Use a desk or a table in a quiet room. Make sure there is plenty of light.
- During homework time, turn off distractions like the TV and radio.
- Before your child begins, talk with her about her assignments. Help her plan how she will use her time.
- Set a good example. While your child is doing homework, spend some time reading or working yourself. Then when homework is done, you can both talk about how much that you both have accomplished.