Adopters and adopted people are always going to be the best source of advice and information, for new adopters. Diversity Adopt have collated a resource guide including books and media suggested by adopters. Research is an important part of your preparation for adoption and these books provide an excellent start to understanding the challenges, joys and achievements for those adopting. They offer you an honest assessment of the things you need to know.
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Therapeutic Parenting Essentials: Moving from Trauma to Trust (Therapeutic Parenting Books) Paperback – 21 Oct 2019 Sarah Naish
All families of children affected by trauma are on a journey, and this book will help to guide you and your family on your journey from trauma to trust. Sarah Naish shares her own experiences of adopting five siblings. She describes how to use therapeutic parenting – a deeply nurturing parenting style – to overcome common challenges when raising children who have experienced trauma.
Preparing for adoption, everything adopting parents need to know. Julia Davis (adoption plus)
The ideal first book for prospective adopters. When you decide to adopt a child, you might assume that all the important work begins when the child comes to live with you. In fact the preparation stage before is crucial in ensuring that the adopted child will arrive to a safe and secure family. Preparing for Adoption provides clear advice on how to prepare for you adoptive child and create a strong foundation for a healthy and loving relationship.
Therapeutic parenting is a deeply nurturing parenting style, and is especially effective for children with attachment difficulties, or who experienced childhood trauma. This book provides everything you need to know in order to be able to effectively therapeutically parent. Providing a model of intervention, The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting gives parents or caregivers an easy to follow process to use when responding to issues with their children.
This is another book about adoptive parenting. Probably not the kind of parenting you hear about in training, or read about in text books, but the real stuff: dynamic, messy, baffling adoptive parenting, rooted in domestic life. Adoptive parent Sally Donovan combines her knowledge of trauma and attachment gleaned from training courses and therapeutic parenting experts with her lived experience of parenting two traumatised children and bridges the gap between the two.
A highly accessible resource for students and professionals as well as parents, Building the Bonds of Attachment presents a composite case study of one child’s developmental course following years of abuse and neglect. Weaving theory and research into a powerful narrative, Hughes offers effective methods for facilitating attachment in children who have experienced serious trauma.
“The Connected Child is very down to earth and direct…It would be useful for all adoptive parents to read”.
Adoptymum is a true life survival guide, detailing life as an adoptive parent, warts and all. and Co. look like a normal family. So why is she getting uptight when someone offers her son a biscuit? Why is that angelic little girl suddenly shouting at the bus driver?
For anyone involved in an adoption process, this is a vitality important book to read and acknowledge some of the consequences of adoption whether you are an adoptee, an adoptive parent or a birth mother and father.
Understanding Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) is a useful introduction to the most common non-genetic learning disability, which is caused by alcohol consumption during pregnancy. Written by two FASD experts, it describes how alcohol can harm the foetus and disrupt development, and explains how FASD affects individuals at different stages of their lives.
This unique book has been written for those parenting children / young people with FASD (Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders) by Dr Mary Mather, widely regarded as one of the UK’s foremost medical experts on FASD and Julia Brown, CEO of The FASD Trust, the UK’s leading charity in this field. Julia and her husband are parents of two children with FASD and she brings her practical, real life knowledge of strategies that are helpful on a daily basis
Is transracial adoption a positive choice for kids? How can children gain their new families without losing their birth heritage? How can parents best support their children after placement? Transracial adoption is a lifelong journey, complex and challenging. But it can work well for kids and families if parents acknowledge that race and adoption matter and educate themselves to meet the challenges ahead.
Covering everything from breastfeeding to brain development, this brand new edition includes the latest thinking on how screen time affects your child’s brain, and a focus on how love, nurture, and play contribute to your child’s development. With a wealth of fascinating chapters including ‘sleep and bedtimes’ and ‘why children behave badly’,
Parenting a child who doesn’t know how to be parented is the most difficult job in the world’ This book provides friendly expert advice on how to respond to difficult behaviours and emotions for parents of children with developmental trauma. Each chapter focusses on the common difficulties faced by carers or parents and features quick, applicable ideas with exercises and illustrations.
Best-Seller Since 1999! Required Reading by Many Adoption Agencies. Why your happy child runs a 102 fever on her birthday, Why adoptees resist talking about adoption with parents, and How to Gain Entrance into the child’s world.
Attachment and bonding
The Whole-Brain Child by Dan Siegal and Tina Bryson Payne. (Good for understanding neuroscience and how the brain develops emotionally)
Building the Bonds of Attachment by Dan Hughes (Good for attachment theory. Has a case study that runs through the look that looks at attachment through a fostered/adopted child’s eyes).
The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry (Thinking about trauma and its impact on children. Lots of case studies)
Why Love Matters by Sue Gerhardt (Neuroscience of developing brains and the impact of trauma)
Attachment Theory, Child Maltreatment and Family Support by David Howe et al (Social Work book but good for looking at different kinds of attachment and how it presents in daily life).
Diary of a Baby by Daniel Stern (Lovely book to help with metallisation of baby in first year)
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk (How trauma is held in the body).
Therapeutic parenting essentials. Sarah Naish
The primal wound Nancy Verrier
Preparing for adoption julia Davis
Therapeutic parenting with security and love Kim Golding
No matter what Sally Donovan
Inside trans-racial adoption Gail Stein
In their voices, black American and trans-racial adoption. Rhonda M Roorda
Nutmeg gets adopted Judith Foxon
Tell me again about the night I was born. Jamie Lee Curtis
My two grannies Floella Benjamin
My two forever dads, My Two Mums, Fred and the dread monster Bryony Irving
Eddie Finds a Family Sarah McGeough
Big steps for little people. Celiac Doster
I love you when you’re angry Erin Winters
A down to earth view of adoption. My name is Andy and I’m currently a husband and father of a 14 year old son. I say currently because as a family we are in the process of adopting a little girl.
Conversation & discussion on contemporary Adoption & Fostering
Our podcasts share information, opinions and stories from people whose lives have been touched by adoption.
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Sources of more information
First4adoption is the national adoption information service for England.
New family social promotes the care and upbringing of children by LGBT+ adopters and foster carers by providing space to socialise and share support.
Adoption UK is a national charity run by and for adopters.
A national project that supports child welfare systems and connects children in foster care with families.
FASD Network UK was started as a support group led by families who were raising children with Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders.
gay adoptive dad’s blog on his life with a 6 year old son.