Contact or family time refers to any kind of communication between an adopted or fostered child and their birth family. This can be face to face, Letterbox (ln writing/indirect) or by phone or video call. It can involve birth parents, siblings, aunts uncles, grandparents or occasionally friends. Contact can also include meeting with former foster … Continue reading Planning Contact (family time) for Adopters and Foster Carers
Yoni: Adopter, Adoptee and Social Worker with 30 years experience. The Benefits of a Coach Coaching can offer adoptive and fostering parents the tools required to handle issues arising within the family unit. A coach can assist adoptive and fostering parents in building strategies to: Learn better ways to respond to situations instead of being … Continue reading Coaching: What can it do for me as an Adopter or Foster Carer?
There’s nothing like Christmas time to bring up a whole gamut of emotions from joy to despair, togetherness to conflict. For a child who has experienced a whole range of losses the amplified focus of the importance of family at Christmas time can make it one of the most difficult times of the year. These … Continue reading Another chance to read: Surviving Christmas: 5 Top Tips for Adopters and Foster Carers.
Traumatised children need the best quality care. They thrive on consistency, calm and order as this is unlikely to have been their previous experience. They need predictability in their lives and both children and their carers’ are likely to benefit from clarity in family routines and habits. This is especially true of children who are … Continue reading The Impact of Attachment Part 2
Choosing Toys for Your Child. Buying presents for children can often be a minefield. Issues to navigate are often the cost of the toys, the quality of the toys, and of course the peer pressure to have the latest toy or gadget! My personal experience of buying toys has me wearing two different hats. As … Continue reading Can I have this one….please?! Choosing a toy for Christmas.
Helping Your Adoptive Child During Christmas Time. There’s nothing like Christmas time to bring up a whole gamut of emotions from joy to despair, togetherness to conflict. For a child who has experienced a whole range of losses the amplified focus of the importance of family at Christmas time can make it one of the … Continue reading Surviving Christmas: 5 Top Tips for Adopters and Foster Carers.
I remember when our youngest daughter came to live with us. On the first night she clearly wondered where she was and why things were so unfamiliar. She was just over a year old and had been in a foster household where she was adored and cossetted, and the focal point of attention for four … Continue reading The Impact of Attachment Part 1
“Concrete words, abstract words, crazy words and lying words, hazy words and dying words, words of faith and tell me straight, rare words and swear words, good words and bad words…What are words worth?” Tom Tom Club, Wordy Rappinghood. Words, we adults love them and we rely heavily on them to communicate how we feel … Continue reading Beyond Words: The Power of Play
In the training for prospective adopters I am currently developing, I have discussed the importance of Empathy and the need to build your empathetic skills as an adopter. This is a fundamental pillar of the applicant’s preparation for the role of an adoptive parent. Expert Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston, … Continue reading The importance of Empathy in Adoption.
Useful also for parents wishing to bring up children to be inclusive and knowledgeable. Preparing to adopt has a requirement to increase your knowledge and preparation. it can be very overwhelming to know where to start. I have therefore picked 8 key books I think will be a great start, in your learning. How to … Continue reading Suggested reading for adoptive parents, especially those considering trans-racial adoption.